Why "71º & Sunny?"

I consider 71º to be the perfect temperature. Not too cold and not too hot. I also love perfect sunny days. The vast majority of days are not 71º & Sunny and yet, all days were created by God's hand and they are still gifts, even if they don't fit my ridiculous definition of perfection. My struggle with OCD has at times imprisoned me in an impossible attempt to achieve perfection. I'm now learning to love all kinds of days that don't even come close to 71º & Sunny.

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Friday, April 8, 2016

Was Your ERP Successful?

Over the years, I've noticed a common observation that a lot of OCD sufferers have made after performing an ERP. They will often consider their ERP a success if they didn't panic or have a lot of anxiety or if they did not feel too bad afterwards. Please do not use your feelings as an indicator of whether your ERP was a success or not. It's not an accurate measure. How do you know that an ERP was a success? It's the fact that you did the ERP in the first place!! And the less you compulse after the ERP, the more effective it will be. (You don't want to undermine all that hard work with compulsions - because that is what compulsions will do.) One of my very biggest ERP successes brought on some of the very worst anxiety I have ever felt. And that's ok! It just meant that I was facing a fear that was really huge. It's not about how we FEEL - it's what we do in spite of how we feel.

P.S. Ironically, after repeated ERPs, the anxiety will usually go down over time. However, it's important to note that the goal of treatment is not to reduce anxiety, but to learn to tolerate anxiety, which, yes you guessed it, eventually brings the anxiety down anyway, and on and on we go in a circle of irony!