Why "71º & Sunny?"

I consider 71º to be the perfect temperature. Not too cold and not too hot. I also love perfect sunny days. The vast majority of days are not 71º & Sunny and yet, all days were created by God's hand and they are still gifts, even if they don't fit my ridiculous definition of perfection. My struggle with OCD has at times imprisoned me in an impossible attempt to achieve perfection. I'm now learning to love all kinds of days that don't even come close to 71º & Sunny.

Please leave me a comment below. I really want to know what you are thinking!

Saturday, January 27, 2018


OCD IS a crisis. Yes, it really is. If someone you know or love is living with ocd, they are in a crisis. They need help. Now. You need to help them get help. They need your support. Your understanding. They need you to get educated. You can start by reading these two books:  Freedom from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and When a Family Member Has OCD. They need you to help them find appropriate ERP therapy (much harder to find than you think). The treatment is expensive. They need you to be ok with that. They need you to encourage them to get therapy or go away to a center, if necessary. They maybe even need you to help them with their therapy homework. They need you to (kindly! and slowly), reduce enabling. They need you to not say, “Just stop!” or “It’s all in your head!” Don’t tell them they are weird or crazy. They aren’t. They’re ill. If someone you care about has ocd and they tell you they are not doing well, believe them. Help them get help. If someone you cared about needed a special surgery or a transplant, they would be in crisis and you would do anything to help them, right? OCD IS a crisis.

And if you’re the one with OCD, I wrote this for you to show to your friends and family. God bless.

Monday, April 10, 2017

"No One Said Hard Was Impossible"

"No one said hard was impossible." Six very wise words shared by a fellow OCD warrior.

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Something For Scrupulosity Sufferers To Consider

Recently someone shared this with me:

"God loves me when I pray and read my Bible. And when I don't pray and read my Bible, God loves me."

Hmmmm. Something those of us with scrupulosity might want to consider . . .

Saturday, December 24, 2016

Monique's Holiday Anxiety Survival Skills

Cast all your anxiety on Him because
He cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7 NIV
1. Don't hang on to expectations of how the holidays "should" be;
2. Remember that anticipatory anxiety is almost always worse than the actual event;
3. Look at the holidays as a time for personal growth and to experiment with your coping skills;
4. Practice mindfulness. Really look at the decorations and appreciate their beauty. Breathe in the scent of the pine or the food or even Aunt Mildred's perfume! Sing along with your favorite holiday tune. Savor the taste of that awesome dessert;
5. Talk to someone and focus on them intently. Really listen. How are they? Could they use a little encouragement? A little support? Be there for them;
6. Contamination OCD can be tough at the holidays with so many people wanting to hug us at get-togethers. Instead of focusing on the "germs," focus on the actual hug and how good it is to have a little human touch;
7. Remember that this time period will pass pretty quickly and before you know it, we'll be back to our regular routines;
8. Hang on to God with all your might - He will get you through this time if it is a difficult one for you; and
9. Lastly, have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!

So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10 NIV 
For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be upon his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace. Isaiah 9:6 NIV 

I have a little bit of a healthy
obsession with nutcrackers!

Thursday, November 17, 2016

No, I Haven't Fallen Off The Face Of The Earth!

Hello friends! I know, it's been a loooooong time. I've recently been through a pretty rough patch, but I think I'm finally starting to come out of it. This time, it was depression that got me down, rather than OCD. As I'm slowly coming out of the fog, so to speak, I'm hoping to share some things that I've discovered along my latest journey. It will probably take a little while for me to formulate thoughts about my experience and then share them with you. There are however, a couple things that I've been reminded about recently, that are so obvious to even me, that I can share them with you right now:

1. God is still and always has been in control;
2. God loves you and me and always has;
3. He really does want the best for us;
4. In spite of some intense pain in my life, I still have a lot to be thankful for;
5. Pain is a a great teacher (though an unwelcome one); and
6. No matter how bad things seem today, it certainly doesn't mean they will be this bad tomorrow, next week, or next year.

If you are suffering, please, please know that God does care and He does listen. Even when it seems that He doesn't (and believe me, I've been there too).

God's love and blessings to you.

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. Psalm 147:3 NIV 

Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Their Feelings Aren't Facts Either

My therapist said something to me yesterday that literally blew my mind. Seriously. It's so simple, and yet, it was something I never, ever thought about before. Let me back up first . . .

One of the things that OCD sufferers do all the time, is confuse feelings with facts. We think that if we feel something, then it must be true. If I feel like a loser, I must be a loser. If I feel like I'm contaminated, then I must be contaminated. When I sought ERP therapy years ago, my psychologist spent a lot of time trying to get me to understand that just because I felt something, it didn't mean that it was a factual truth.

I struggle a lot with what other people think of me. Much of my OCD is actually fueled by what I fear are others' perceptions about me. At the core of it, I fear that they will find me unloveable. Yesterday, my therapist told me, "Just because someone else feels or thinks something about you, it doesn't make it a factual truth." Wait, what??? So even if someone else thinks I'm a loser, that doesn't actually make me a loser? Even if someone else thinks I'm a "bad" Christian, that doesn't mean it is truth? If my feelings are often not based on facts, why do I assume that other people's feelings are any more reliable than my own? This might seem so obvious to you, but to me, it is profound. I'm not so foolish as to think that I still won't ever worry about what others think, but I can tell you this, I'm going to start looking at it differently. There's only one Person whose thoughts about me are always based on factual truth. And hey, I have a sneaking suspicion He loves me. And you. ; )

Thursday, May 5, 2016

God's Comfort In Suffering

It would not be a complete tapestry without
all of the different colors and patterns.
Though my OCD symptoms are much less agonizing than they were before I underwent Exposure and Response Prevention Therapy (ERP), there are still some days filled with pain and suffering. And there are times when I question what God is doing in my life, and why He allowed me to live with a chronic mental illness.

I've recently started therapy with a lovely young Christian counselor and she has been a blessing to me. We are working through the remnants of OCD, depression, and the recent discovery I've made about being an extra emotionally sensitive person. In session yesterday, we were talking about a lot of these things and I also mentioned to her about my struggle with daily Bible reading. God has been reminding me that I really need to incorporate this into my lifestyle. My therapist suggested purchasing a new devotional, so as soon as my session ended, I marched myself down to the local Christian bookstore and purchased two new devotionals.

One of the devotionals I picked up is entitled "The God of all Comfort: Devotions of hope for those who chronically suffer," by Judy Gann. I was touched by the first entry that I read this morning, and I wanted to share a passage of it with you, in hopes that you may be comforted too:

"In my limited understanding, I view my pain as a knotty hindrance. However, God sees a different picture, a complete picture. He sees my weaknesses as essential threads in the unique tapestry he is creating of my life.
Not until my life, your life, is finished and silent, will we understand the darker threads of our human tapestries and their contribution to the beauty of our unique design.
We may disagree with God's choice of colors. But we are works in progress-still stretched on God's loom." Pg. 4
Yesterday, my therapist reminded me that we already know what the final chapter of life eternal will look like. And what a glorious chapter it will be! God bless my friends.